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Passionate Kissing

Is passionate kissing acceptable before marriage?

President Spencer W. Kimball taught:

'Kissing has been prostituted and has degenerated to develop and express lust instead of affection, honor, and admiration. To kiss in casual dating is asking for trouble. What do kisses mean when given out like pretzels and robbed of sacredness? What is miscalled the "soul kiss" is an abomination and stirs passions to the eventual loss of virtue. Even if timely courtship justifies the kiss it should be a clean, decent, sexless one like the kiss between mother and son, or father and daughter.

If the "soul kiss" with its passion were eliminated from dating there would be an immediate upswing in chastity and honor, with fewer illegitimate babies, fewer unwed mothers, fewer forced marriages, fewer unhappy people.

With the absence of the "soul kiss" necking would be greatly reduced. The younger sister of petting, it should be totally eliminated. Both are abominations in their own right."

"Immorality does not begin in adultery or perversion. It begins with little indiscretions like sex thoughts, sex discussions, passionate kissing, petting, and such, growing with every exercise. The small indiscretion seems powerless compared to the sturdy body, the strong mind, the sweet spirit of youth who give way to the first temptation. But soon the strong has become weak, the master the slave, spiritual growth curtailed. But if the first unrighteous act is never given root, the tree will grow to beautiful maturity and the youthful life will grow toward God, our Father. (The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, p.281)

Elder Richard G. Scott taught:

"When you are mature enough to plan seriously for marriage, keep your expressions of feelings to those that are comfortable in the presence of your parents." (See Making Right Choices, emphasis added)

Elder Legrand Richards taught

"[When I was a boy, one of our brethren out in the ward] told us that we hadn't ought to be kissing girls until we were sure we were going to marry them. Then he used this little illustration. He said, "Which one of you boys would like to eat a sandwich where your boy friend had licked all the butter off?" That made such an impression upon me as a boy that I decided that no boy friend of mine would ever accuse me of licking the butter off his sandwich and I kept my promise. ( BYU Speeches, October 3, 1962, p.11)

In summary, passionate kissing is a sin before marriage. If you are doing anything with someone that you would not also feel comfortable doing with your brother or sister while in the presence of your parents, then you are going too far and need to repent.

(See Daily Living home page; Dating and Courtship home page)



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